All good things. either way. 6. Stop. And if its sunny then thats even better because I may have seasonal affective disorder (working on finding out with doctor) and the bright sunlight is just wonderful for my mood. Dont communicate with him except through text/email (if you feel it will be less intense than talking on the phone or in person) or calling each other constantly throughout the day when there are only going to be more fights about who called first and why so much time has passed without either of you initiating contact. Because cookies were next to my bed. Then, repeat what you want him to do and make the boundary plain: I hear you, but I want to be clear: I dont want you to do that anymore., Please stop correcting me and advising me., I appreciate all the help and support youve given me, but I actually need to navigate this on my own., I dont like it when you tell me what to do., The Silent Treatment is really not cool., Youre not the boss of how I eat or exercise, and I think its going to be healthier going forward if you stop monitoring that stuff and if I stop reporting it to you as if you are my nutritionist or trainer.*, I dont need you to change me or to be right about this, I just need you to love me and trust me to do the right thing for myself., I realize I was in bad shape for a while, but as I try to get better, Id like it if you would stop monitoring all these things about me and just found a way to enjoy my company., You may be right about that, but Id still like to handle this on my own without your input., I know you want to help, but I would like to set a boundary around advice-giving. As I was reading the original letter, I was thinking that the question ought to be how to break up with him. Dating you is a privilege you get to grant people, not a burden someone is doing you the favour of shouldering. I mention all of this because I remember thinking to myself a lot, during that time, Eh, this is fine. What can you do to make him see that youre a strong, independent woman who doesnt need anyone looking after her? He then said that he was only trying to make her into a better person. Do you want to be like my mum, self esteem completely destroyed, fleeing an abusive 30 year relationship from someone who always thought you were not good enough? My husband is in a club that meets once a month when he has that meeting I have Chipotle for dinner. I dont know your boyfriend or all of the details. I appreciate that you care about me, but Im good, so lets change the topic.. (Ive blogged about this a bit and will give you links if you want.) It makes taking care of ourselves seem hard, even impossible on some days. I can go one better! Oh god, my parents did that toothey made fun of my (snack) food choices all the time, which was severely hypocritical as they were the ones who taught me that that behavior was absolutely not okay (when directed towards an adult). And what am I doing while Im waiting for her to stop the one-sided argument Im passively agreeing to? LW, I think the Captain has a very good point about how you should be proud of the progress youve made the fact that you know that you are a person who can help themself and that you dont need someone else to be your Life Mechanic is a pretty damn good place to be, and some people never make it there. it doesnt extend to someone elses body/diet/etc, and EVEN IF YOU WERE OKAY WITH THAT or had asked his advice (and you do not ever have to), you still get 50% weight, which is the ability to say Thats nice that you think that, but Ive decided nope. Though I would be concerned that a person who says the things he says would also have a completely not-of-reality idea of how much housework is being done by whom and, if hes anything like my ex who pulled similar stunts, possibly expecting LW to do most/all of it because hes riding on privilege+entitlement. Because this literally never means My partner likes to get all the information about a problem before trying to solve it, or S/he really likes to do her/his research about an issue. Hes developed some very strong and unrealistic expectations about ways LW will change. Don't let your wishes control your thoughts and feelings. When i try to move the battery lock switch thing it doesn`t move and it`s like stuck. Well. I spent 10 years in this same spot eventually he broke up with me because I was not trying hard enough to evolve as a person. Its only been 8 months since that happened, but I havent been this happy in years. Him: Im disappointed that you arent trying to improve your diet the way I said. You: NOT YOUR CALL.. Ideas which involve me policing my SOs behavior, rather than my SO doing it for themselves those ideas both take agency from my SO, and attempt to make their behavior my responsibility. You also have the feeling that something must be wrong between you two because it feels like there are more bad days than good ones lately. Sometimes she gives me general approval to do something if shes having a rough time (food check-ins) and other things only count as very specific situational approval that has to be renewed any time I do it (phoning her psych, removing sharp objects). Dont be accusatory or judgmental when you do this. Expressing frustration towards behaviors? I feel like Ive learnt to spot the signs now, but I really didnt see them when I was less experienced. But, as I pointed out, were different people. He wanted to call the shots. Ive asked him to stop trying to get me to change, that you cant change other people, but he refuses to accept that, to the point that he says its the stupidest thing hes ever heard. It also meant i felt comfortable telling him things as they came up, instead of hiding them or lying because I knew I could trust his reaction. Thank-you for this comment. for forward and backward evolution. Founded in 2010, Thought Catalog is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company, Inc. For over a decade, we've been at the bleeding edge of media, pioneering an infrastructure for creatives to flourish both artistically and financially. One notable occasion was when I got interested in a new industry and there was a 3 day workshop I wanted to attend. What about Y and Z? it makes me feel bad that you arent acknowledging what I already did. He was not doing it to be a dick; he was doing it because X reminded him of Y and Z, and so he was being helpful, in his eyes. you can do it! the whole time. Then, at the end of any date, I got this huge guilt trip if I didnt show gratitude. These are pretty direct statements. We are high maintenance and needy, its all caused by our hormones (and that somehow makes it funny/unimportant), we are dismal and pathetic. This does not augur well for a long-term relationship. I spent four years in a relationship like that, where nothing was ever good enough and taking steps to be a better Me was met with derision and controlling behaviours, and I know so much how hard it is. Be honest about how you feel. Reactions based on internal, undisclosed standards isnt about keeping score, but it does have an effect, LW, and youve been feeling it: uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety around their approval. And when youve told him that hes being unhelpful, and hes told you its the stupidest thing Ive ever heard that you might have your own thoughts on your health and what you need That is him being a jerk to you. His schedule may simply become too full and leave no room for romance. All the logical, reasonable, skeptical partners that the LWs describe are always trying to use their logic to make other people feel like crap about what they feel. People who base their identity around fixing you have a major investment in keeping you broken. We dont try and manage the others health and healing, though. People dont always tell you frankly when theyre mad at you because, say, theyre projecting their issues on you. YES! He says I'm too negative and I have no friends and I'm not self sufficient. On the other hand, if your boyfriend puts a lot of stock into what your therapist says, this line might work really well. That said, hes gotten very good about saying, OK, I can take over X now, please stop when X can be things like make sure I take my meds, make sure I eat, make sure I fill my pill pack, etc. Controlling never helps this situation, taking care of me and then helping him as he asks to be helped is what helps this situation. Its just really hard to take that final step sometimes, and back off, but its exactly what I need to do. Or maybe its because walking isnt competitive in any way? He finally stopped when I was a teenager and I said something along the lines of it was a good thing I wasnt as sensitive about food as many teen girls, otherwise such comments could send me towards anorexia. I'd always known that my boyfriend was a bit insecure due to his previous partners cheating on him, but I never realized how often I would text him during the day to let him know who I was with, what I was doing, where I was, and other small things. Cant get to the I want? That stupidest thing Ive ever heard bit set off major alarm bells for me, too. And another thing Its generally accepted that self-care is good for self-esteem. Even if he were good at this coaching thing (spoiler: hes not), he shouldnt be your coach. (Weirdly, by giving my anger a physical expression, I think it sticks around LONGER than if I had not worked it out.). Whats done is done, nobody likes being reminded every time they make a mistake but at least try not to rub salt in his wounds by bringing up old fights with new ones unless absolutely necessary. "And if . He has literally never done this. Dont sit around waiting for his call or text message because it could go on all day without either of you saying anything at all to each other just texts back and forth that dont really say much if hes not initiating the conversation himself. Has the boyfriend pulled out stories of other people who have similar problems and yet manage to be super-awesome-amazing-overachievers? I focus on how each time he does so, its a good thing he is doing, and I am proud of him for it. Right now it feels like youre breaking up because youre not good enough for him, but in a very short while, it will become evident that youre breaking up because hes not good enough for you. I personally believe strongly that relationships work best when your partner loves you and likes you as you are now, while also supporting you growing and changing to become the version of yourself you aspire to be. Ew, gross. If he comes back, then great but if not, dont be surprised or disappointed. Am I the only one who says nope the fuck out of there yesterday? I keep telling myself that. In some cases, he may have been enjoying chasing you more than having caught you. 2) said, Im going to [the gym, for a run, to walk the dog, to a coffee shop to get out of the apartment for a bit], want to come? And the accepted my yes or no WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. Thanks again. 1. I am an overly logical person. WELL I WONDER WHAT YOU WOULD DO AFTER 20 YEARS MARRIED TO SOMEONE YOUD PROBABLY JUST BLITHELY DUMP HIM THEN TOO. Take care of yourself. Your boyfriend may have felt secure with you because, in his head, you had low self exsteem and would not look for someone better than him. And when Spouse or I are depressed, the other one will say Hey, lets go for a walk! And sometimes we go, and the Depressed One says I feel better. Controlling me became an end in its own right, because it flattered his ego. You have to like them for what they are (plus a +/- 2(?) If he can hear criticism and change his behavior accordingly, then maybe thats a partnership that can be forged. short and sweet? Hide the chips? Absolutely. Please think about this carefully. I love it, he doesnt. Your bf is trying to make you break up with him. I might add that my husband wholeheartedly approves of this, and Im sure he does the same thing when Im not around. Thank you your reading of his intent is, I think, spot-on! Walking is much better for me, sure it isnt strenuous (seriously, WTF????) When men care about a woman, they want to look good and impress her. Also, I think its wonderful you put food down in front of her. Or will. Finally, I also worry a bit about something almost the opposite of not wanting to help you through hard times, which is not wanting you to get better. You wrote: Im in therapy to recover and get to a place where I think that Im good enough & love and trust myself again (after years growing up having that constantly undermined) . "You need to STOP chasing him immediately. . He no longer asks you about what happened during the day, if you had plans with friends or family, or anything of the sort. The closest he comes is But that doesnt make sense! Which, you will notice, does not contain the word you. A person who is engaged in actual logicking is thinking about statements, not persons, nor how much better they are than you. I felt like I had to fix it and if I just explained my feelings enough (cus he was a Nice Guy and would never do anything to hurt me and never cheated on me) he would stop unintentionally making me miserable and there was no Proper Reason to do it. what if what if what if?!?! Soup kitchens. And before you know it, you'll find yourself behaving like his loyal and obedient slave instead of an independent and happy girl who's dating a guy. I am going to assume that dude loves you and just wants to help you get better because he knows you want to get better.. As the Captain said, he likes potential you. Not only is that (a) SO VERY NOT COOL, its also (b) likely reminiscent of the very types of behaviors that led to you developing those not good enough feelings in the first place. But, don't nag him. But I guess its cool because he never got DIVORCED *gasp*. He tends to expect peoples feelings to be comprehensible and based on clear, material realities. He stopped trying "He stopped trying, I couldn't even remember the last time we went on a real date. But it can be useful to remember that the other person may be engaged in a positive struggle to live their life, even if looks maddeningly like the opposite from outside. Yeah, there were also lots of couples who socialized together officially when there was an Official Occasion, while spending the rest of their time with their respective lovers (totally with each others knowledge and tacit consent). Pick one.. Heres my own take-away from my therapist: Your thoughts and your feelings are valid and welcome! Took about two years for me to believe that sentence. Oddly enough, moving from a high-stress environment full of people trying to manipulate and fix me, and having a constant build up of pressure from JerkBrain on a loop of You promised you wouldnt, you cant let them down theyll be angry to a place where I was told Im aad that people bullied and shamed you, you have complete control of your own body and mind, and there is nothing to be ashamed of pretty much stopped it overnight. That was threatening to him. It doesnt sound like you two ever consensually negotiated a relationship with unequal roles and a power imbalance, nor does it sound like what you want. If you like to cook, it might be really awesome if you two discuss the idea of having friends over for dinner a bit more often. LW, Ive been in your shoes, and youre ignoring how very NOT nice the boyfriend is being with all this. I only do that in ways that SHE has approved, and that weve mutually decided would be comfortable and appropriate for me to do. But, if that was all there was to it, he wouldnt be getting angry when she isnt doing those things, or dismissing and belittling her words. When I left my abusive family? Ive been gone for a week, and Im not going to believe you if you tell me you ate healthy isnt about keeping score at all. But I really think you deserve somebody who loves, respects, and likes you as you are right now. You cant have every moment be a comfortable one otherwise youre never actually challenging yourself, but they are needed otherwise you burn out. When youre happy and interesting, youll find yourself meeting new people and having the opportunity to explore all kinds of different relationships not just romantic ones! He didnt like how I looked, how I liked to dress, how I acted or thought or analyzed media. I cant leave my house very much. LW, as someone who struggles with depression with a spouse who struggles with depression, heres what concerns me about your letter: Your boyfriend is expecting you to be accountable to a list of tasks hes set, rather than treating you with compassion and helping you help yourself. (Of course, theyre the first ones to ask Well why didnt she leave? (From knowing my mother I now if shed had any reservations she would have allowed herself to tell me about them as many times as she could. Luckily, John Howell has already worded it beautifully , http://thoughtcatalog.com/john-w-howell/2013/05/a-narcissists-love-letter/. A person who wants the best for you will listen to you when you share that with them, and will change their behavior accordingly. I hope that both you and the LW are able to get the unconditional love and actually helpful support you deserve, either in your current relationships or elsewhere. He says, You should exercise. A year ago, that would have maybe resulted in you shuffling your feet and cycling through guilt about how yes, you should probably exercise but you just cant. I cringe whenever I think about how unfair and how disrespectful I was to him, and how much time we wasted together when we each could have been in other situations (partnered or not) that would have been more fulfilling. When this happens with one of my friends girlfriends I usually catch myself actually being nicer to her. He was scared, I was exhausted and largely unresponsive, and neither of us knew what was going on or what to do. I spent most of my life not being good enough for some reason or another and its a way for some one to exert control by keeping you off balance. That person is going to be psyched by evidence that you are capable and willing to chart your own course, and think, Hey, my partner must be feeling better, since they have their shit under control. What could have turned him off about you in particular? At all. He seems to be sorry for everything these days. Again, voice of experience, you do not want the realization of how stressful he really is to be when youve been thrown back to the bottom of the well. Feeling bad when you are in a stressful situation doesnt make you bad, it makes you normal. Replace depression with cancer, and see what Im talking about. I was somewhat interested, so it was great to have him show me proper form and give me pointerscon how to put together my workout plan. I dont think relationships where somebody tries to mold you into their vision of you are a good thing. So now I absolutely have all these weird shame issues around food, which is probably why I could barely eat around my various romantic partners for yearsits just a crappy thing to do to anyone. Maybe, if in addition to saying What youre doing isnt helping me, you say, this is what you can do to help, hell be more responsive. (But again, I do think its an excellent tool to help evaluate a relationship.). I thought I had some obligation to stay friends. I feel you. That is some high-level head games. Theres also the fact that you are depressed, at least for now (although congrats on making what sounds like a lot of progress toward improvement). What is that one spot where youve always wanted to go but never had a chance yet? How To Get a Man to Commit: 4 Dos & 4 Donts, How To Make A Guy Want You? Then all of a sudden he stopped calling and you're not hearing from him at all. This does not sound like how you want to be loved, or being loved for who you are, but who someone thinks you should be. It can be hard to stop caring, even when someone has done nothing but bring you down. He may have met someone new and is now taking her on dates, buying her gifts as well as making other gestures. Remote kissing device for long-distance lovers, invented and patented by Chinese university student in Changzhou City.The mouth-shaped module, served as an inducing area . For example, depression is very tiring in itself. He is a member of your team and not your coach. Ikind of feel like a great, positive life change that will help combat depression is getting this dude the hell away from where you are, OP. Ugh, logick-y dudes who want to tell you how to run your life. Go to a concert and it doesnt have to be Jay-Z and Beyonce. Run. Personally, I dont like relationships where I am treated like that. Im sad because the person I love is sad, and I want them to be happy. The focus is making me incredibly uncomfortable, though. In the former case, dump him and run. Your Jerkbrain is telling you that youre never going to find someone else who will put up with you. So boyfriend needs to read up on stuff about mental health issues PRONTO. He might also benefit from seeing a therapist or counsellor himself to get some help supporting you. be positive about the steps your partner does take every time I am aware of my partner taking a session on his exercise bike (which isnt every time he uses it, but often we watch tv together while he exercises), I comment about how I am proud of him. Essentially, he supported me equally on good days and bad days. I suppose you could try announcing that youre going to change him into someone who doesnt do things he has specifically and repeatedly been told to stop doing, in his intimate relationships, even if you have to drag him kicking and screaming into The Land Of Getting Hip, but honestly, that comment above is an infinitely bigger red flag than any number of questions about your broccoli intake. This isnt sustainable. So, my friends often come over here. When he complains that youre not cleaning, is it because youve actually made a mess? When your boyfriend stops making an effort, there may be a good reason behind it. Pick one night per week that you alternate making dinner. You are more than good enough you are wonderful, no matter what you are doing, what choices youve made today. When were checked out its just not worth the effort anymore, so youll get more one word responses. you arent going to get better if he keeps breathing down your neck.. But you shouldnt have to put up with constant questioning from anyone, especially when theyve been told to back off. If you broke up and had to move out of your shared place, where would you go? Hell, take steps to meet some new people anyway. My partner of 3 1/2 years has depression and anxiety, and sometimes I act as her monitor/coach/support person in some ways. What can I do for them?, Im sad because the person I love is being sad at me, and it would be so much easier if they were happy. We both loved science fiction. Because Im sure youve got enough I shoulds running through your head without him adding to the list. Taking emotions out of decision making is actually a highly irrational approach. Depression. I hate to jump on the You Should Probably Dump This Guy dogpile, but something you wrote in your first paragraph really sticks out to me, LW. Yeah, he sounds like a lot of bad voices like an A Capella Choir of Angst. To the point where I didnt want to go out because I couldnt take another lecture on how horrible I was. My sister is not depressed and does not need my help, I just want to provide it because I care about her. Its like, I am going to have a short break from the environment that is making me so unhappy. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. He may be feeling like he is missing out on his life and it is time to get back into the single life. its one of the downsides of having a toddler he still needs decent meals to function at anything like a survivable level. 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